So great you recognized this in yourself and are unafraid to talk about it. Often times, people don’t.
Have you ever read “A New Earth,” by Ekhart Tolle? There’s a chapter about how we all have a “pain-body.” According to Tolle, your pain-body feeds off the pain-body of others, it’s the only way it can survive.
I wrote an article about it after I met a new man. We were overwhelming sexual attracted to each other, but he was so full of rage, we only got through 1.5 dates.
I could see his pain was running the show, and it reminded me of the chapter in Tolle’s book.
I sent him a copy, but I don’t think he ever read it.
Give that chapter a read if you have the chance. It could be useful!
And here’s a quicker summary of the topic:)